Image: Jenny Bristol

Image: Jenny Bristol

Note: This post is a work in progress! I’ll be adding to it as time goes on.

I find myself, more and more often, in a position to need to explain to people all things autism and autistic people and ABA and other related things. Rather than repeatedly having to try to remember all of the resources I’ve found most helpful and have heard that others find helpful, I am gathering them all together here, on my own site. This way, I can direct folks to one place to learn about and understand autistic people and autism in general.

It generally shouldn’t be the work of a marginalized group to educate the rest of the world about that group, but how else will the greater world learn the right things in the right ways? They might learn from the wrong sources. They might learn harmful practices from so-called (but horribly misguided) “experts”. In short, it’s important to learn about autism from autistic people, not from non-autistic people. So, to save myself (and others) some of this important work, I’m gathering my best resources together here so people can do their own work to educate themselves.

Many of these links lead to additional articles and links that I have not necessarily looked at, so bear that in mind. I will add to this list as I find new resources and dig into my bookmarks further.


  • Functioning labels are harmful (“high-functioning”, “low-functioning”).
  • Please use identity-first language instead of person-first language unless otherwise requested by the autistic person themselves (say “autistic person” instead of “person with autism”).
  • “Nothing about us without us.” Involve autistic people in their own care. Or, rather, autistic people should be in charge of making decisions about their own care. Listen to what they say.
  • ABA and any compliance training is abuse. Period. It’s based on gay conversation therapy techniques and both forces autistic people to comply with people who have power over them and teaches them that they aren’t good enough/are broken/aren’t allowed to be their true selves.
  • The best way to learn about autism is to listen to autistic people and follow autistic people on social media. Look for the hashtag #ActuallyAutistic (do not use this hashtag yourself unless you are autistic). If you have questions for autistic people, use the hashtag #AskingAutistics. Then respect their answers.
  • Avoid Autism Speaks; they do not speak for autistic people.

Vocabulary About Autism

Links to follow. Most people not-in-the-know use the wrong terms and vocabulary with respect to autistic people. I’ll fill in helpful links here as I find them. I’m putting this section near the top because it is the best place to start.

My Own Writings


It’s Time for Acceptance: 10 Reasons to End Autism Awareness Campaigns

Geek Club Books tasked me with writing an article (illustrated by Rebecca Burgess) about why “awareness” does nothing and “acceptance” is what we need.


A Day in the Life… Actually Autistic Adults in the Real World

An ongoing series of interviews I’ve done with #actuallyautistic adults (and one child) about what their life is like as an autistic person. I even interviewed myself! This is also at Geek Club Books.

Autism Woman HD

Landing on the Spectrum: I’ve Always Been Autistic. I Just Didn’t Know It Until Now.

In which I write about how I figured out I was autistic and what I did about it.

Image: Jenny Bristol

Image: Jenny Bristol

Landing on the Spectrum, One Year On: How Learning I’m Autistic Has Changed My Life for the Better

In which I write about what my first year of knowing I was autistic was like.

Autism Resources That I’ve Found Helpful



Understanding Autism Comic

An older comic put together by Bex Burgess that might be useful.

Websites and Articles

Autism in Females

Females and Aspergers: a Checklist

A long but non-exhaustive list by Samantha Craft of autistic traits often found in females. This list helped me identify some of my own autistic traits. (Note: “Asperger’s” is rarely used any longer among most of the autistic community because it’s been lumped in with autism in the DSM and because of the problematic history of its namesake.) Many times, adults, especially adult women, aren’t diagnosed until after one of their children is diagnosed. As they learn more and more about their child’s diagnosis, it sets off light bulbs in their own head. This is what happened to me. Reading through this list might help women discover their own diagnosis earlier.

Asperger’s in Women – Life on the Spectrum

Information on Asperger’s in adult women.

Autism in Teens and Kids

Growing Up Autistic: 10 tips for teenagers with Asperger syndrome or “mild” autism. Tips for teenagers (included despite the problematic vocabulary).

“I Didn’t Have the Words To Tell You” – Mother of Autistic Girl Shares Important Conversation between Daughter and herself. Parents usually want to help, but don’t always know what to look for. By learning some things to consider about your autistic children, parents can be more loving and effective parents.



Autism First Language Podcast

Put together by the autistic Magnus Hedemark, this is a so-far limited run but absolutely crucial podcast to listen to for anyone who wants to understand autistic people as they try to navigate this tricky world, including at work. This is not to be missed.

Why ABA (Applied Behavioral Analysis) is Harmful, Traumatic, and Abusive

I have no experience with ABA or other compliance training, for myself or for my children, but countless autistic people have talked and written about how it was harmful for them and caused them to develop PTSD or other trauma disorders because of it. Here are some links (to come) that are food for thought.

Also see Neurodivergent Rebel’s list of resources on ABA below.

Masking and Autistic Burnout

Autistic burnout happens when demand exceeds capacity.

Autistic masking is when you have to pretend to be something you’re not just to interact with the world.

Autism Isn’t an Epidemic or Disorder

Autism doesn’t have to be viewed as a disability or disorder


Anxiety is a huuuge comorbid with autism, so I’ll find some links for that in the future.

Gelotophobia & Autism


These are books that I or others have found to be helpful.

Aspergirls: Empowering Females with Asperger Syndrome by Rudy Simone. This book was very helpful for me to see bits of my life that reflected my autism. This was before I found Samantha Craft’s list above.

I am AspienWoman: The Unique Characteristics, Traits, and Gifts of Adult Females on the Autism Spectrum by Tania Marshall

Spectrum Women: Walking to the Beat of Autism edited by Barb Cook and Dr. Michelle Garnett, but with a slew of contributing writers


The Difference Between Good Organizations and Bad

Good Autistic Advocacy Organizations vs. Bad Autism “Charities”

Positive Organizations

ASAN, the Autistic Self-Advocacy Network

AWN, the Autistic Women & Nonbinary Network. They have some great welcome packets for the newly diagnosed (and their parents if the diagnosed person is a child).

Organizations to Avoid

Autism Speaks

Autism Speaks is the highest profile autism organization and actually causes great harm. Avoid it, please. Run in the other direction as fast as you can.

The Ableist History of Autism Speaks

Quizzes to Take

Take the results of all of these with a grain of salt, and only see them as part of your whole self-education.

Autistic People Worth Following

Famous Autistic People

Temple Grandin

Why Temple Grandin is Not My Hero

Additional Autism Resources

Christa Holmans, Neurodivergent Rebel, has gathered their own list of helpful resources. They’ve gathered a long list of autistic people to follow, and also articles about ABA and how it’s harmful.

A list of resources I haven’t yet vetted.


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